3 Ways to Live a More Authentic Life
Do you feel that you’ve become invisible in your own life? I don’t mean literally. If that’s the case, I suggest you look into a life of fighting crime and saving the world. Often when I’m coaching I hear a lot of people, especially women, speaking about how they are just ghosts of their former selves. They feel like they are living a half-life. They’ve been so busy doing what everyone else needs them to do that they forgot to ask what they want from life.
Are you one of these people? Are you struggling to be a perfect mom, wife, employee or daughter to aging parents? Do you lie in bed at night and wonder “Is this all there is to life?” Do you feel like there is something else you should be doing, but are afraid of how the change will affect those depending on you or that you don’t deserve better?
This is no way to live a life. If you’re looking to bring more happiness and purpose into your life, you need to find out who you are and how to live authentically. Here are three tips to get you started.
1. Stop trying to live your life the way you think others expect you to. You need to realize that it isn’t actually other people’s expectations, but your anticipation of their expectations. Living a life filled with expectations, often conflicting ones, is like wearing a straightjacket. You need to give yourself permission to leave these behind. And when you do, you’ll realize that you were the only one paying attention to them anyways.
2. Find your light. Everyone has something that makes them special and brings them alive, whether that is writing, painting, acting, working with kids or even a dream of starting their own business. You need to stop standing around waiting for someone to give you permission and go out and find what your light is (you probably already know deep down) and just do it. And don’t let that little voice in your head tell you it’s selfish to spend that time on yourself either. You need to start being selfish. You need to start spending time on yourself. When you go through life being selfless, you become just that, less of yourself. Now is the time to start asking what you want from your life and how you can take steps to get it.
3. Love yourself. You can’t change who you are, nor should you. Not to sound overly like a Hallmark card, but you are beautiful just the way you are. People don’t love you in spite of your perceived “flaws,” they love you because of them and you should too. When you start embracing your good and bad and accept that we are all imperfect, then you will be well on your way to living a happier, more authentic life.